I remember a picture from a children’s book we had when I was a child. It showed a man with a stern look on his face. He was unshaven, wearing a black hat and dark clothes, and he was hiding his hands behind his back.
Upon turning to the next page, one discovered that behind his back, he was holding a beautiful flower in his hands.
The two pictures fascinated me. How from one moment to the next, a small shift of perspective fundamentally changed what I saw and knew about this man, and consequently, how I felt about him.
Throughout my childhood and adult life, I have been curious to look again at the seemingly obvious; especially whenever the seemingly obvious appeared to be frightening, wrong, harsh, unfair, or unkind. I have been seeking and testing out simple ways to gain fresh, more complete perspectives; perspectives that would help me, and others, dissolve fears, stress, anger and frustration, create joy, connection, intimacy and trust in relationships, and reveal life‘s immense beauty in all those places where at first glance it had remained hidden.
I love shining a light on the relationship between our internal life - our perspectives, beliefs, definitions, assumptions and feelings - and our external reality experience and actions. Exploring these inner and outer landscapes in my own life, with others, and perhaps with you, is part of my passion; as well as finding enjoyable, powerful ways to shift those old fear-based perspectives that limit, contract and seemingly imprison us.
Relationships have always been a topic dear to my heart, and an area of priority in my own life. In a broader sense, I see relationship everywhere - I find it interesting to explore our relationship to money, to ideas of success and failure, to our past, or to certain events and circumstances in our lives. How we define and interpret these relationships has such a fundamental impact on the quality of our experience.
Relationships with other people, then, are a beautiful opportunity to get closer to ourselves, and find out who we really are and how we wish to relate to others. Conflicts and stress can serve as a sweet invitation to go within and discover aspects we had been unaware of, unable to perceive - in other people as well as within ourselves. Brought into the light of our awareness, they enrich our perspective and experience, leading us back to intimacy and connection.
My own relationships have been beautifully transformed, become more peaceful, sweet, and joyful since discovering and applying the simple tools I am offering you. Through transformative inquiry, I have been discovering the beautiful, unique flowers the people in my life are holding in their hands and offering me - sometimes hidden behind their backs. I'd love to help you make similarly fun and enlightening discoveries in your own relationships.
Besides my love for The Work of Byron Katie, which is my primary tool, I also enjoy studying and applying other modalities of belief work as well as positively oriented, empowering psychological and metaphysical concepts, such as the Seth Material/Jane Roberts and Bashar/Darryl Anka.
I have a deep affinity with animals and plants and the natural world. I enjoy being in nature, and I love gardening and permaculture.
Over the past few years since becoming a parent and spending lots of time with my children, I have been learning a lot about fun, playful and effective ways of learning, in particular the learning that happens naturally as we simply follow our spontaneous curiosity, playful impulses, interests and passions.
I grew up in Germany, lived in New Zealand for three years as a young adult, and moved to the Netherlands to live with my partner in 2006.
Professional background in Social Work (University of Bremen).
Facilitator of The Work of Byron Katie: In 2009 I completed the Certification Program at the Institute for The Work.
Parent and home educator/unschooler.